Wandering Poster 45 - In Motion?

[jon2911]

There is something deeper that she has to discover for herself. I can try to nudge in that direction, but I can't give a full out push. I'm nudging now, before I wasn't!

Just remember, you can't do anything about her, you can do something about YOU. And most C's aren't good at communicating that, like your C telling you that W has deeper issues. I don't understand what that accomplishes. That's obvious.

I prefer what Michelle says, "when one spouse changes, the other will also. It's a law of relationships".

You're "more tolerant of clutter"? Find me a guy who isn't. Seriously. The marriage conference I was at this weekend, he said that most guys would be perfectly content to use their hunting gear as furniture, pack it up, go hunting, come back and set it up. We don't care. All that changes when we get married.

So that, and the general house workload, and the mattress, and the sleep schedule, yes, they're excuses. You're convinced that if you change, she won't, but you won't know unless you try.

I'm excited for you man, you seem to be in a place to try some real DBing stuff here, which will be good for you no matter what happens with her.