So sorry to hear of your sitch....A bit like mine. married 29 yrs and he walks.....separated 16 months he still is ambivalent.I do believe that a new relationship built on deceit and pain cant last...but that doesnt stop it hurting.I dont think he is over you either,they just push it to the back of their minds but sooner or later the guilt and regret comes out.If your H is like mine he isnt calling because of one reason only- guilt.Try not to call him. Let himbe wondering how you are- and he will be.My H is also with OW .the grass is always greener but I am just biding my time,waiting,but most importantly getting on with my life as best as I can.I am thinking of you over in England!