Wandering Poster 45 - In Motion?

[jon2911]

I know everyone thinks she wants me to get a mattress! But, I've said, let's get one, and she says NO, not until there is no CC debt at all. She means it.

I am going to try to twist my schedule a bit. Not easy.

Sounds like a tough impasse on the CC, just keep feeling her out on it. And it sound like this schedule issue has been a long-standing problem in your marriage, from her "I adjusted before, and regretted it" comment. I think it's worth a try.

My perspective from reading this is that she's opening herself up to you a bit. She's still acting like there's no hope for change, or that the sitch can get better, because it's risky to get hurt again. Deep inside she's starting to believe IMO.

You're on the right track, keep it up!