Signs to say WAW woke up?

[dday101798]

Well, I got home last night and my youngest son was there, didn't want to go by W. Kind of mixed on that because he didn't seem to want to go on Tuesday either, but he knows that Wednesday is "wing night" (buffalo wings) and likes going to that too. Either way, we had a good night, came back played some video games together and joked around a bit, real nice night.

The flip side: W and I spoke, much to my reluctance, seems or older son has been selling his video games and stuff to kids at school and somehow has come into some money. I know W had about $130 or so in silver certificate money that I can only account for $4 of after looking for it. Of course initially a few months ago I was convicted of stealing it, didn't even know where it was.

We spoke civily about the matter and her tone was pleasent. At the end of the conversation I felt comfortable enough with her demeaner to politely and carefully ask why she had the kids for the last 2 nights. Her tone immediately went south and she said "because they wanted to". I said, alright then and I'll talk to you later.

So, still up in the air on a hidden agenda with her. When my son and I got to the resteraunt she called again, I delcined and then her brother called me 2 times in row, I declined. Neither left any messages. I was a little preterbed by the fact that when my son and I were walking to the resteraunt, he kept asking me questions about he peolpe I've met in GAL-ing. He was repeatedly "mom thinks this about so and so, mom doesn't like this person" and so no.

I merely told him, that it is none of mom's concern who I associate with and you really shouldn't be caught up in the middle of that and switched the conversation over to lighter subjects.

So anyway, good night in all. I was kind of expecting a message from W this morning, none yet.

[dday101798]

Hmmm, another interesting horoscope:

Mine: "You haven't had time to relax at home with family. The most important thing you can offer is your full attention."

Hers: "Make extra time for family, even if it means rearranging your schedule. They have things to talk to you about, and you need to hear their input."

[dday101798]

Problem continues with older son.

I tried talking with him before he left for "w's house" but he withdrew an dI let it be. Found out later on that my BIL grilled him pretty hard earlier.

I texted W to see if there were any updates to the situation. She intially replied saying there was nothing going on with it. Then all the sudden she texts that the money was mine and he returened it to where he got it from on "my dresser next to a change jar".

A) I don't leave money laying around (now that actually have control of it) and B) I don't ahve a change jar.

As I was trying to text a reply, I kept getting a weird alert on my phone, not being very technically savvy and a little buzzed I didn't know what it meant.

Then I get this blasting text from her saing how evil I am for declining my kids call. So, I call back and explain I was trying to text her back and didn't know what was going on with my phone, she declaired it B/S and threw son on the phone for me to "interrogate"

I again calmly ask him where he got the money from becasu it isn't mine, and if he brought it back where is it? He continued to claim he didn't I try to tell him it's okay now, but you need to make the situation right. All the whil I'm on speaker phone apparently and W starts screaming at him to answer "f'n" me and if he doesn't, he's going to the "f'n" police statioh. I keep telling her to stop yelling at him as that is very counter prodoctive and uncalled for.

This reversal of how our roles used to be sent her into a fit of rage and I backed off and told her that whatever she decides to do about the situation is her choice, however be nice and stop yelling at him.

So, that's the night's main even in a nutshell. Looking forward to getting out tonight. Running joke is that the last time I went out with everyone from work, W was blowing my phone up every 5 minutes to check up on me and now it will be even worse given the fact she's really going to want to know what I'm up to since I'll be in a enviornment far from home and she won't have a grapevine feed as she does when I go to the local pub.

House-mates say she'll probably try and 'dump' the kids again tonight like every Friday night so I can't go out, eh-eh, not this time.

[dday101798]

Today's 'scope...

Mine: "Stick with your family's traditions. If you don't have any, make some up. You'll find that doing the same old thing is very comforting now."

My translation - when someone in my family is mad at another member, we just don't talk, right where am at.

Hers: "Continue to let your loved ones build up your confidence. They think you can do anything"

ehhh, can't come up with anything for that. ..

OH! Almost forgot, got a report last night that if someone (w) doesn't start showing up to work at their scheduled time if at all starting Monday they're getting fired.

See, W can't drive (legaly anyway) and has to rely on a ride to and from work. She works with 2 of her girlfriend's that have been doing so for her, but are fed up with her stories, lies, and making them look bad at work. Also they both work different hours than W does, so somebody is in a pickle. OM is "already tired of being her chauffer" around town. Heh, like to see if he's actually going to get at 5:30 every morning and cart her some 45 minutes away to work.

[dday101798]

Well,

W is "engaged" to OM, is going to be eligable for a pro-bono state lawyer in January and is taking the kids and obviously since she's state represented and has no means to support them on her own, child support is a definate.

With no financial means to fight this, notifying FIL this morning that will be moving out of the house effective Feb 1.

Looking forward to all this being done with.

[AmyC]

I'm sorry.
I must have missed the part where you said you thought it was cool to let your kids go live with their pot smoking, party-animal mother.

WTF, dday?

What state do you live in?

You need legal advice.
Although I am in the legal field, I am only a Paralegal.
Therefore I can not give you advice.

But I CAN point you in the right direction if you'll tell me where you live.

[dday101798]

If it matters and I don't see how, Illinois.

Someone forgot to tell W this isn't Utah where you get engaged while still married.

Whatever. Amy, there's no changing this one, through time I have come to learn she has cheated on ANY relation she has ever been in.

Worst off, I got a stack of insurance claims on her this weekend for her depovera shots she's been getting, and all thought I didn't say what the claims were for, when I asked her why she isn't off my insurance yet her answer was coldly "what do I need my own for when I have yours?".

Yet she claims last night to be pregnant? WTF should not be directed at me.

I am done with this.

[AmyC]

You can still play it smart.

Click here >>> Illinois divorce law

You probably have to remove her from your insurance yourself.
Check with your employer.

I'm sorry.

[dday101798]

Already been all over that site, father's rights sites, spoke with attorneys, the whole nine yards.

Only 2 ways to get her off, she gets her own and provides a statement of benefits as proof or finalized divorce.

FIL took the news ok as I told him she has commited herself to her choice and I will no longer be the caretaker of her belongings nor bear the financial burden of a life she left behind.

[christarn]

hey dday...i agree it's in the water...AlexEN from IL as well

WTF????

LOL

Have a safe and happy turkey day!!!!

hope things are going ok in your sitch!!!

((((Dday))))

christa