Well, I'm reviewing my choices and I guess there isn't much I can do, it's going to be a mess and nothing I can do will prevent my kids from dealing with the pains of a blended family with a father who doens't know his head from his butt (my opinion which I only share her not with kids).
That is pretty much the bottom line. I think OT had some good advice in there. Maybe a little more straight-forward and to the point than people in our sitch want to hear, but it is correct. For some reason we still have unrealistic expectations that the STBX or X will see things our way. They won't.
I constantly have to remind myself to not react to what the X is doing, instead I need to react to what the kids are doing/saying.
Texting as primary means of communication has worked out lovely for me over the last week. She tries to call (why I'm not sure) but I avoid them, so we are sort of opposite. My stress level is much lower when I don't talk to her. I don't get my hopes up that she will start thinking about anyone but herself. Of course that is MY take on it, hers is completely different and I need to remember that. You too...
Of course that is MY take on it, hers is completely different and I need to remember that. You too...
