Finally a new wifey thread

[Silent Chrleader]

Hey, {{{{{{Kelly Jo}}}}}}.

Every time I read from your sitch, I am struck again by how much alike we seem to be. I know EXACTLY how you feel and struggle daily with "letting go" and concetrating on me. I am a "fixer" and have little or no patience and standing back and giving the space my H has requested is very hard for me, and I feel I "backslide" a lot, and second guess everything I do.

But, KJ, I see a LOT of positives in your sitch. The very fact that your H has "opened up" to you in the way he has in this e-mail is something I wish my H could do for me. My H is still very closed off and petrified of taking any step toward me. The hugs I REALLY envy you! He came out and said in writing that he "wants to be friend/family and rebuild our relationship. If it can be....." is also, I think, very positive. These are all things to hold onto!

I know I've suggested them before, but I will suggest them again. Two books that really helped me (and I've read a LOT) are:

Facing Love Addiction by Pia Mellody
Surviving Male Menopause by Jed Diamond

You are a good lady. Don't forget that!

And, one other small piece of advice. Don't leave again! If he wants to take that step, he needs to make that effort.

Take care!!