"If I feel threatened by the way that you are acting or speaking, I will remind you that I can call the police. I would rather have more distance between us than risk aggression on your part. There is a history of violence in our relationship, in front of [our son], and you frighten me.
I apologize for calling you a dick. Its frustrating when it seems like you are trying to make picking [our son] up more emotional."
I hardly know what to make of this email...She threatened to call the police as I was apologizing to her for snapping at her the night before (when she accused me of not caring about our baby). And this history of violence she's talking about - especially in front of our son - is a fiction...at least if she's trying to hold me accountable. This spiral out of control began back in May - when she started kicking me in the back and then punching me - and I wrapped my arms around her to keep her still...she now points to that incident as proof that I abused her - even when we were in MC - and this incident came up - she said she didn't remember kicking me or hitting me at all...
Okay...so I do know what to make of this...I should just acknowledge it - appreciate the fact that she's at least letting me know what she's thinking/afraid of - and I should not try to correct her...the problem with that...is that she's very clever - and I think that if I say nothing about the "history of violence" comment it would be like admitting guilt - which I cannot do. Oh...the violence in front of our son that she's referring to comes from a point, just after she dropped the bomb, when I did the typical, stupid thing of grabbing our wedding album and throwing in on the kitchen floor - saying, please look at what you're throwing away. She and our baby were about ten feet away from the album - but she now claims that I threw it at them...
Ugh...enough of this already...aside from email about the baby, I'm going to continue to keep communications dark. I think I've already let her feel it's okay to insult me more than I should have...so now I won't be doing that anymore. Validating is one thing - but getting insulted so often is unacceptable - especially in front of our baby.
I think you're wise to be cautious with your SBTX, Ken. Just as it's important not to believe anything they say when they're angry - the same holds true when they're putting on the nicer face. Just don't let yourself get caught up in her drama - even if she is looking to blame you for things.
