Carlos KenF is right. I think you need to set your boundaries clear, probably not by telling her. She won't listen anyway. Just show her in action. Don't expect her to say anything to you anymore. Don't expect her to come to the door for you S2. Try to stay cool and stand firm on your ground. Like you said, this is her issues that she has to deal with. Please don't let her darkness affect you too much.
It sounds like good plan on T-day for you. I can feel you will have a wonderful weekend. Have fun with your boys and friends. You are a good man and father. You can do this...
NW626
Me:33 STBXW:38 S:3 It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you fight the fight....!!