OT, I have never put myself as the victim nor his dad the bad guy, the worst I've said is that sometimes adult make bad choices too (when son asked me why they weren't married and were sleeping together, I won't gloss over that).
And no, I've ***never** bad mouthed either stbx nor gf, I'm actually trying to help him accept her, I tell her about my own nice step mom and my nephew's step mom, that even if gf looks different (tattoos, tongue stud) he has to try to see beyond that. I have told him that it's a situation that he'll have to accept because his dad's R seems to be a serious one.
I honestly dont' think adding 2 kids into the mix who dont' know each other is a great idea-- and yes, I know, I can't do a d@mn thing about it. I feel sorry for those kids already. I still think having more time with me will help s10 get used to the new people. I told him that his dad would never bring someone he wouldnt' trust or who would hurt them, that he is lonely and that having a bad attitude wont make his dad get rid of gf (my son thinks that by sulking it will happen), it will just make it miserable on everyone.
Well, I'm reviewing my choices and I guess there isn't much I can do, it's going to be a mess and nothing I can do will prevent my kids from dealing with the pains of a blended family with a father who doens't know his head from his butt (my opinion which I only share her not with kids).
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
