I'm glad he did send you something, shame it wasnt what you hoped for.
You said "I know, wtf?? Avoidant, in his own world, rude etc are my thoughts"
But he said..."Just wanted to let you know that I'm not ignoring your email you sent the other day, I've just had a week's holiday so haven't had a chance to reply."
Which wasnt rude, quite explanatory and polite in fact? and it implies he is THINKING about it, it warrants a proper reply, not a dashed off reply. He's been away, so didnt get it before his holiday?
I dont understand why the car thing takes precedence over other types of communication, is it that urgent?
Also, I dont see what the issue is with transferring it to him, if you dont want the car anyway and you dont want the debt? You do need to know his address though! Is it that big a deal, to sort the bill out for him? I might have misunderstood you here.
His text was friendly.. I guess, once these guys 'move on' to PA's or OW, or whatever, we are not the main focus, so they dont always reply straight away or even in a way that feels like you are high on their list. I think its sad, but then, maybe he feels tremendous guilt toward you that he has started a new R?
I'd say.. whats your goal? Do you want to be/stay friends? Wait and see if it blows over with ow? There might be a chance for you and him if it does? So whats the point in being angry, be friendly back, capitalise on his contact (not straight away, leave it a while maybe) and make it super easy for him to have contact with you, make him feel comfortable, be the bigger person..if thats what you want (friendship for now).
I dont understand the boundary thing, sorry, unless you are also moving on?
Al x
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
