TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[PositivelyMommy]

Hey {{TxMom}}, I know you must be really nervous about your first meeting with L. I was terrified. But it's good to get information for your arsenal. Just look at it that way, your L will be on YOUR side.

Thanksgiving issue is hard. Like what I wrote about Halloween. More time with the children is always a good thing for WAS. It's the ONLY thing that grounds them right now. You want that right? Let's think of it this way, if he was a TOTAL deadbeat Dad and refuses to see the kids, then you and the children will be hurting much more. So encourage him to think that he can still be a good dad. It's a good thing either way, whether you stay together or take your separate paths.

I know (like me) your pride and sense of justice is screaming at you (BUT you are letting him eat cake!!) Don't worry about that now. Don't be the bi*ch in this triangle, OK? You can't afford that right now. Maybe later, you can get a chance to talk some sense into him. But not now, the timing is wrong. If you want to minimize damaage (which should be your biggest priority in you R after the kids) then you need to be the BETTER OPTION.

Don't let him put you in the I-knew-she-would-use-the-kids-against-me box. He is probably expecting you to be that, so do a 180 and be ultra generous. To get his attention, you need to catch him off-guard. Because he was bored with the same-old same-old TxMom. He thinks he knows you like the back of his hand. I bet you that you didn't know you can handle this so well, right? You'd never thought you could bear this whole situation but you have and you did it with grace. No one can take that from you, TxMom. Well done!