Look where you were 6 months ago, and look at where you're now.
you're makin real progress.
the being nice to the X gets easier and easier. I see mine almost daily. we get along very well. I still help her with money, dunno why, I just do, I feel sorry for her, so I will always be decent to her, no matter how bad she acted in the past.
she has met many of my dates, I feel bad about that, dunno why, but I don't want her to hate herself. I know she feels like crap, but I can't fix it, wish I could, I really would.
guess it all comes down to that they sleep in the bed they made.