BG-Hun I was at work so I couldn't get on here. I am much calmer now than I was earlier. So even though I said what I would do if I were in your shoes, please know that it was coming from a place of frustration with my own H, MT's H, Hope's H and then finally your H compounded by what I think is a menopause moment. (Week whatever).
Now that I am calmer, you have to ask him if he is 100% sure if this is his child. Why did he choose to tell you now? pressure from her I'm guessing that she would no longer keep the secret. Also, I wonder how long he has known. Then you have to look deep within yourself T. Can you forgive him for this, for the secret, for everything? Can you really do that and do you want to? And if you do, he has to stop R with her. Other than being a father to this child. There is no crossing that boundary again. Will he do that? Can you deal with them continuing to have contact and truly maintain a happy, loving marriage that is based on trust and love? Or will you always wonder and have that little pit in your stomach at the mention of her? It is too fresh right now. You can't answer all of these things at one time. You have to look deep within yourself honey and be more honest with yourself than you have ever been.
You are a very strong and beautiful woman. A woman who was absolutly right in believing your H. Even when he gave you reason not to, out of love you gave him the benefit of the doubt. If you are stupid then we are all stupid. And I don't think you believe that we are all stupid.
Keep your PMA honey you need it. Rest and let the kiddies help with the cooking. I'd bring mine to you but it would still be raw when I get there. LOL. We are here.
Such great advice and so well said kel. It is so cool the freindships that come about on here.
Bg my dear I can only begin to (from the tiny bit of commotion on the current page) feel what terribleness you are feeling. It is rotten I know but it is but one day. Be still and let the Lord provide you a remedy. If you let Him, He will. He always does and it will be as great as can be.
Time for prayers for you and so many others. I will read more later and check in on you again real soon. The Lord shares all that He posesses. Ruminate on that .. it is really something. The devil can be swatted away. Be Determined.
