LE-I am proud of you. Time is on your side. Use it to see how the interactions go. Where her head is. Try to let go of the anger, remember your words when you talk to her. The tone of your voice, do not REACT in front of her or to her. Think and then ACT. Baby steps and remember, when we are learning to walk, we all fall back down. That is part of the process so do your best to not let one night of no contact ruin what could be the rest of your life. As far as your anniversary--that M is done. You are on the road to a new R. I think it was YOU who said that. So don't let it bug you. Make new memories and new special days if the opportunity arises. I have a funny feeling the possibility really exists.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.