Well Tomato if you haven't figured it out by now, you stepped back into Hell. But we will all be ok.
MT-as much as I wanted to say everything Hope said, I was so aggravated that I just had to wait for her to do it and then second. Between all of the men in our lives and my moods swinging this last week (realized today that my cycle is really off, damn menopause go from every 15 days to I think I figured no 36 and counting) So I have been terribly weepy and moody these last few days and now at least I think I know why. And I'm anticipating a long week. Believe me on this, I know when I need to keep my mouth shut so that things don't come out wrong. Sometimes it is better for us all that way, at least until I compose myself. But H and I are usually on the same page and she is the wiser of the two of us.
So, I hope you are ok. He will have to talk to you eventually. Stand your ground. And personally, he left. Now if he wants to come back, it's your way or none. But only you can decide that. He can't work on M and still have OW. It just doesn't work unless someone figured out how to take 2+2 and get 1 and didn't tell me. LOL
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.