BG- I am so sorry. But why would you even think that way that the child would be his. There was no way to have a clue. You know you are very smart and very good. Just keep remembering that. I wish I was in a better place myself to help you. I am so sorry.
you guys he did come back, he touched me i puked all over. i havent said a word, other than do not touch me, i sent him to get himself some dinner.
i think finally i met my match, i am not big enuff for this, i may have said it in the past, but seriously, i cant i just cant.
amy love you thanks for calling. sorry it had to be weird, i dont even know if i care if he EVER comes back here. to many years of lies and deception
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
BG-Hun I was at work so I couldn't get on here. I am much calmer now than I was earlier. So even though I said what I would do if I were in your shoes, please know that it was coming from a place of frustration with my own H, MT's H, Hope's H and then finally your H compounded by what I think is a menopause moment. (Week whatever).
Now that I am calmer, you have to ask him if he is 100% sure if this is his child. Why did he choose to tell you now? pressure from her I'm guessing that she would no longer keep the secret. Also, I wonder how long he has known. Then you have to look deep within yourself T. Can you forgive him for this, for the secret, for everything? Can you really do that and do you want to? And if you do, he has to stop R with her. Other than being a father to this child. There is no crossing that boundary again. Will he do that? Can you deal with them continuing to have contact and truly maintain a happy, loving marriage that is based on trust and love? Or will you always wonder and have that little pit in your stomach at the mention of her? It is too fresh right now. You can't answer all of these things at one time. You have to look deep within yourself honey and be more honest with yourself than you have ever been.
You are a very strong and beautiful woman. A woman who was absolutly right in believing your H. Even when he gave you reason not to, out of love you gave him the benefit of the doubt. If you are stupid then we are all stupid. And I don't think you believe that we are all stupid.
Keep your PMA honey you need it. Rest and let the kiddies help with the cooking. I'd bring mine to you but it would still be raw when I get there. LOL. We are here.
If you focus on the past, you ruin the future. You can only live for today.
Sorry about the new and unwelcome revelations. Sounds like I need to bring you the orange can if I ever find one.
Not going to deep into this since I am coming from a angry spot myself right now. I am glad I am not closer, sounds like your H needs a few knocks in the head. That would be inappropriate, though I should be your way in a few months.
Give a listen to this. Long time favorite of mine. Hang in there girl.
BG-Hun I was at work so I couldn't get on here. I am much calmer now than I was earlier. So even though I said what I would do if I were in your shoes, please know that it was coming from a place of frustration with my own H, MT's H, Hope's H and then finally your H compounded by what I think is a menopause moment. (Week whatever).
Now that I am calmer, you have to ask him if he is 100% sure if this is his child. Why did he choose to tell you now? pressure from her I'm guessing that she would no longer keep the secret. Also, I wonder how long he has known. Then you have to look deep within yourself T. Can you forgive him for this, for the secret, for everything? Can you really do that and do you want to? And if you do, he has to stop R with her. Other than being a father to this child. There is no crossing that boundary again. Will he do that? Can you deal with them continuing to have contact and truly maintain a happy, loving marriage that is based on trust and love? Or will you always wonder and have that little pit in your stomach at the mention of her? It is too fresh right now. You can't answer all of these things at one time. You have to look deep within yourself honey and be more honest with yourself than you have ever been.
You are a very strong and beautiful woman. A woman who was absolutly right in believing your H. Even when he gave you reason not to, out of love you gave him the benefit of the doubt. If you are stupid then we are all stupid. And I don't think you believe that we are all stupid.
Keep your PMA honey you need it. Rest and let the kiddies help with the cooking. I'd bring mine to you but it would still be raw when I get there. LOL. We are here.
Such great advice and so well said kel. It is so cool the freindships that come about on here.
Bg my dear I can only begin to (from the tiny bit of commotion on the current page) feel what terribleness you are feeling. It is rotten I know but it is but one day. Be still and let the Lord provide you a remedy. If you let Him, He will. He always does and it will be as great as can be.
Time for prayers for you and so many others. I will read more later and check in on you again real soon. The Lord shares all that He posesses. Ruminate on that .. it is really something. The devil can be swatted away. Be Determined.
A lot has been said already. I am so sorry you are going through this. I would be happy to grant your wish and come kick H's azz - likely be in a long line.
I know it is hard to think of - but 48 hours. Try to not do anything for the next 48 hours but worry about YOU and you k's. Don't even think of H.
AND has been said, NEVER think you are at all stupid and by all means NEVER blame yourself for this.
All the hugs and prayers I can give! Take care!!!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
(((Baby))) how you doin' girl? I just wanted to check in with you before I get serious about packing.
Don't do anything right now. Give this information some time to sink in and then give it some more time.
You don't have to decide ANYTHING right now, but you do have to take care of yourself and not let this newest stuff affect your health.
I'm so sorry, I wish I could tell you that its no big deal but you are going to have a lot of feelings to work through and you do it on your time table, not his. Don't forget, you have the right to feel any damn way you want. Hold on sweetie. Put your faith in God and just get through each day as it comes. It will get better.
((((((Hugs))))))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
We'll all be here for you to support you in whatever decision you make. We love you...you are so much stronger than you realize. And,if you can lean on God in this crisis, He can pull you through it!
Love you much!!!! Amy
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!
its his, they already had the tests, and he just left. he left ME??? should have left his ass along time ago, its all about him dont care how sorry he is, its my fault i didnt work, so damn sorry i had to take chemo and live!
omg i cant i really cant
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
