Well, it happened...
My H went back to his home tonight. He said he was going back there to try and figure out what he wants. He said he wasn't saying he wasn't coming back but he's not saying he won't. OW is not a part of his life anymore. Still maybe thinks he needs to just be alone. To not have anyone. Doesn't have to worry about making anyone happy.

I told him it is not his job to make me happy, that is for me to do for myself. Just as I cannot make him happy. He said he doesn't want to go back. I said I don't either. But in order for us to do things differently WE have to do things different. I can make all the changes in the world but he has to make changes too. The biggest thing is for him to learn to talk to me, and I have to learn to listen.

Other things were said, but you get the gist. This hurts like hell people. Thanks for listening...


M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!