Hey FLTC We all react to stimili in a different manner. The Army had written many fine books on the cognitive responses of personnel in a combat zone.
Years ago I read a long article about the #2 CIA operative in Somolia who was in country for the entire duration of our involvement and displayed symptoms of PTSD. He like many leaders went 500mph day in and day out and simply burnt out. At the writing he was on a disability but had to fight for it.
Many of search and occasionally are luck to retrieve a glimpse of the intensity of emotions upon return experienced day in and day out in theater. It is the major draw of the Motorcycle gangs who replenish their ranks with young veterans attempting to recapture that intensity.
Once we acquire the research skills of how and why things as PTSD, marriage breakups, and such we understand and can soften their negative impact. Once one understands Why my mind cannot concentrate, why on the 4th you kiss the deck, and why one did not make that emotional connection with the spouses we can take steps to simply make things better for all involved.
This is a dry way of not necessarily avoiding emotions but understanding them so one can respond properly. There were days I simply hid a few years back cause I knew what went in my head was not rational. Who knows the damage that could have occured.
Divorce is a severe shock to the sense of security and ego. It is more disabling than most physical injuries and takes longer to heal. There will be times one will just have to sit and rest and for a returning Veteran that is difficult.
Once the deed is done you are going to feel like to jump back on the saddle and get on with your life. You probabaly will receive many offers from fine ladies for company and much advice to get going. Sitting still for a spell and probably a long spell where you appear to coast will allow the inner self to repair or at the least scar over.
You will go through the process of sitting still appearing burnt out sooner or later. It is best to do it without the pressure of a new committed relationship however it will happen reguardless.
Reguards
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
