Yuck, just yuck. OT is right...when you can stop caring about his actions completely, this stuff won't be nearly as maddening. What's the old line? Focus on you and the kids. Forget X--you deserve peace, and you're the only person who can catch it for you.
It's hard to turn that caring instinct off--especially for you: a lovely, nurturing, loyal, determined woman...but you have to do it for you.
