Cleaning out Clutter - ? For Men

[MsMelancoly]

Hi Ali, Thanks for reading my post & the well done.

Not to be pesimistic, but a 'promise' to talk to me soon - is a promise broken. Who knows how 'soon' is for him anyway. I really do not dwell on that & have learned to expect nothing from him. (He's a people pleaser).

Bob, well Bob is a really good soap opera story. Bob is his best friend, band mate, owners son (of the company my H works for) & is in jail/on work release for drunk driving. My H is his chaffuer basically. He is also the person that I ran into this summer & told me about my H's OW. (Actually, the friends Bob was with asked if I was my H's girlfriend - OUCH! I said no, I'm his wife). So as far as I know, my H doesn't know his best friend told me. Bob actaully asked me not to tell my H - he told me. So as Jody says, this says a lot about Bob. Bob cares more for himself than he does about my H & me. Totally true, Jody was spot on.

My H has spun himself quite a web. He decided to do this band thing with the owners family (not just Bob, but owners son-in-law as well). The owner & his family are all a mess (all need to see shrinks). My philosophy, is never get too close to co-workers - unless you can really really trust them. So, ofcourse my H is paranoid that he could loose his job (he has always been worried about that). Him being a hard worker has saved his *ss so many times from being terminated.

Really, I do see the talk to you soon as positive. Even more so, he emailed me back 15 minutes after I sent the email.

Yes, the end of the garden maze, is not even in sight yet (so we do have a ways to go). And I keep trying to get my kicking screaming H to follow me through this maze ....