{{{{BG}}}}} I agree with Davidswife..there is no way you should feel stupid about being blindsided like that..because it's not the way we think..let us know how you are my friend!!!!!!!
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
there are no words for what i am right now. none. i try to remember the sermon sunday, and the why. but seriously, this is so much more than i can handle!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Babygirl..I am SO SO sorry that you are having to deal with this on top of chemo too..I wish I was nearby..do you have anyone nearby that can come and hug you and cry with you and listen to you or just be with you?
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
there are no words for what i am right now. none. i try to remember the sermon sunday, and the why. but seriously, this is so much more than i can handle!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
I am so sorry that this has happened. Does he know for sure it is his? Wasn't she married before too? Maybe she is pulling this on him all of a sudden to get him to be with her? Just guessing, again I am so sorry.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Oh my darling girl, my sister...I'm so sorry. First and foremost don't ever feel stupid for believing or wanting to believe what you were told by H.
I know you are in shock right now, trust me...I know. Once the shock wears off you will need to ask some questions in order for you to be able to decide what it is you are going to do or what you want to do.
Does your H know or have proof that this child is his? Why is this coming out now or what prompted this revelation? FWIW...his BS earlier of defending her and making you feel bad was because he was feeling bad/guilty/etc about this coming out and was taking it out on you rather than owning it.
Is there someone that can just come and be with you? Someone who can just listen? Its not a good time to be alone and you should have some time to process this bombshell without H being around to further upset or confuse you.
Sweetie, I'm here if you need me. I'm also in the alt. universe...I'm friends with Lost in Space and Kat, they know how to find me. ((((hugs)))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
i havent talked to him, i dont have the strenght, today is the day after chemo for me, so i was already sick. I did pop a beer and its good!
it was a dear john email, telling me of his transgressions, he left it in my court, its up to me if we fix things i think, i dont know, i am so sick and feel so damn stupid. the A started so long ago, omg i am gonna puke again.
happy early bday from him and happy flippen holidays AGH!
M 36 XH 34 3 children If a house is divided against itself, that house will not be able to stand. Mark 3:25 "your mood swings are giving me whiplash" twilight ALIVE FREE AND HAPPY 2010
Baby, this is not up to you. Its up to him. I know this is REALLY early, but do you even want him? This is a question you will have to answer yourself. Don't answer it today. What made him email you this information? What prompted this whole thing?
He dumped this in your lap. If you still want him, that part is up to you, but its up to him to do the work necessary for you to forgive him and get past this is what I meant.
Take it easy on yourself and right now, think only of yourself. Your kids are not there and you know they are safe. Focus on you. ((((((hugs))))))
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
