It's a challenge to be sure, to show love to someone who has hurt me so much, who is with another man, who I can't depend on to show me anything
I know it is.
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Put the hurt aside and just be able to be giving with no expectations.
That's it right there.
And it's not to say that you become a doormat, Frank. Or that you let her use you.
It means that when you find yourself interacting with her you choose to interact with love and kindness at all times. When you speak of her (except here where you can safely vent) you will speak well. Find SOME redeeming quality about her and focus on that. And if that one thing is all you can focus on for MONTHS, so be it. At least there's that one thing, you know? It'll get you through. It'll keep you grounded. You are not her Judge and you will not have a say on her Judgement Day. So cut it loose. To focus on her good quality(ies) will counteract your natural tendency to see the worst in her and feel the worst about her, which is really only damaging to YOU.
Your feelings are justified. The anger you feel on behalf of the girls is a righteous kind of anger. We ALL know that. You still have to find a way to let it go. You do still have A CHOICE whether or not to let those feelings define you.
