It is so hard to answer that...... I think I'd see past the clutter, or maybe try to keep an area for me that was clutter free. I don't think I would "punish" my spouse but effectively becoming a roomate, if that. I'm not saying there isn't a problem, but I don't think her solution is very appropriate. Or very motivating, for that matter.
This could be a long road, if we even get started on it.
