E-mail conversation regarding the holiday schedule...
I was a little hesitant, because I don't want to come off as a jerk yet I want to spend as much time as possible with my S. However, we basically have a 50/50 split each week and the schedules naturally flip so we have alternating days. Based on that schedule W will have our S on the Thursdays that are Thanksgiving and Christmas. I do have the benefit of getting S those Fridays following the holiday and have him for those weekends until 5 p.m on those Sundays which will actually be better because the majority of my family will be back over the weekends. Anyhow, I want S on Christmas day at some point as well.
Me...
"{W},
I let {daycare} know {S} will not be there this Friday. Please drop him off at my place on Friday at 8 a.m.
You are scheduled to have {S} on Christmas day as well. I would like to have {S} at some point on Christmas day. Instead of exchanging on Friday morning, I would like to take him early – on Christmas Day, sometime mid-afternoon.
{H}"
W...
"If you could meet me at {bakery} at 7:45 on Friday that would be great; I need to be to work at 8:00 so I have to do it before.
As for Christmas day my brother is in town that day and that is the only day that works for him I would like him through noon since that is my day. Then I would only get him one night that isn’t too fair to me.
Thanks."
Me...
"{W},
I will meet you at 7:45 a.m. on Friday.
On Christmas Day, we can meet at 1 p.m. to exchange
Thanks."
W...
"{H},
So if I need {S} sometime early and ask are you going to work with me on that, because I kind of feel like you are telling me what I have to do and you would like that if I did that to you. You are not asking me and that is my day. That isn’t fair that I only get him Wednesday night and then for awhile on Thursday.
Sorry."
W.. sent 5 minutes later before I could respond...
"{H},
I do want to work with you on this, because I want you to see {S} on Christmas Day. I just wish I could see him more. Wednesday night and Thursday morning isn’t long, but I do want to work with you on this okay.
Thanks."
Me...
"I have worked with you in the past. For example, when your brother was back for that wedding and you said you were going to take {S} to see him. I also let you have {S} for extra time during your Grandpa’s visitation/funeral.
These are not regular visitation days we are discussing….it is Christmas day."
W...
"No I know I’m sorry. I agree you have worked with me. I want you to see {S} on Christmas day; can we do like 1:30 would that be okay?
