I am swimming in Soap Suds!

[1hope]

Oh no. How old is this little boy? Could this be the hold that the OW has on him?

[Babygirl]

i dont know how old he is, i will have to think really hard. THAT is what I said to crissy! could it be that and not work? dont know if he was saying it to be hateful, but I sent him off an email late last nite, and the only thing he didnt comment on was THAT part!!
my head is spinning with remember when she needed a babysitter? and he dropped and went?? omg i am sick, i think we need to let my H and mt's H just live together!

[1hope]

I'll throw mine in too.

He's being a jerk today and I just hung up on him. I'm off his roller coaster now.

What is it with these guys being intentionally hurtful to the women that love them?

[Babygirl]

i have no idea! if we ever figure it out, them out, lets write a book we would be rich.

[1hope]

BG, it that were the OW's child, wouldn't she have made sure that you knew that by now? Just doesn't make sense, since she has taken such delight in saying other things to be of such hurt to you.

MT, how are you this afternoon? Keep breathing girl.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

My thought on this, hope, is that OW is telling him that the troll baby is his, but it ain't so--that's why she has not said it to BG. Because, honestly, whatwoman would not DEMAND a blood test t oconfirm?

BG--I cannot believe you did not call me about this!!

SMW

[kelaaron]

OMG-I take a couple of hours off and I miss everything!!!!!!!!!

I'm throwing my H in the pot too. Just cuz I'm and really finished with the rollercoaster.

Hope-thank you for piping in with MT. I just wanted to blast her H so I said nothing. I knew you would say what I wanted in a much calmer, more rational way.

MT-I second everything every one has said. If he decides to leave, don't stop him. Don't beg him to come back. He has to be the one to make that decision, unless you don't want him there. If it is simply "under these circumstances" then it is his choice to make. And not having your home to come home to might just be a wake up call.

BG-throw his Ass out. Sorry, not real DB I know but I think that would be the last straw. Unfortunately, I don't think he would have said it if it weren't true. IDK, you have to do the math, and then you have to ask him about it. Yes I sort of agree with Hope, except that he may have asked her to let him tell you, and she may just waiting for the right time to really attack you.

I am so sorry this is happening to any of us. But I am so thankful that we have found each other to support us through this.

[Babygirl]

that could be laura, didnt think of that BUT she has thrown in my face how she can give thim a family and children of his own. i need to do the math, it was just insane that I had talked about it earlier in the day, and then he said that last nite.

hope things are better mt!

[MT35]

Hey everyone, sorry I stepped away for a bit, took a trip back in time...had to use a typewriter on a duplicate form... OMG!!! I never realized how much I use backspace on the computer. The forms were bank forms for our auditors with our account numbers on them. Took me like an hour of up and down line up line down, set margin, release margin. I love the computer so much BETTER!!!!

Wow BG- I would think there might be something to the kid thing or at least maybe something she is working anyway. I worry about H getting her pregnant, she is supposed to not be able to have any more kids, but I could see that happening. I would have to be done then.(I say that now, and before cheating was going to be it for me, we know better now don't we). It might be worth looking into at least to get it off your mind.

I am OK, my stomach is in knots right now. Has been most of the day. I keep thinking about things, them together, and I know everything I think is worse than what probably really is, but it is there right now.

Kel- I knew you had some more you wanted to say, and I don't mind if you ever say it!! I know what he is doing is very cruel to me and I don't deserve any of this.

It almost feels like when someone you love dies, but they have been suffering so it is better that they have passed, but it still makes you wish with all of your heart that this had never happened in the first place.

I know I have to be OK, and I can't let him use me as the doormat any longer. If he doesn't leave the house but continues to see her, I will have a set of rules that will be put out there, I won't be catering to him any longer. If he is mad I can see him pull the I am not leaving either. Life here won't be near as easy and grand when I am not picking up all the pieces for him.

I so appreciate everyone who gives me the great advice and support. I feel a bit more like I have a direction now, and not as much in limbo.

I emailed my SIL (the one I like) and let her have a heads up on what was going on. She replied back to me:

"I think he needs to make a choice. It may not be the choice you and I want but, you are right not to continue to let this go on. I know he will regret this all later. You know I haven't even talked to him. SIL's H says that my H won't say anything to him when they run into one another. SIL told him what's he going to say I'm screwing up and I know it."

H's BIL and him have always been fairly close H has farmed for him in his off time and of all the brother's and sister's they are our favorites. I told SIL he has two lives right now and when BIL crosses over to the other life H doesn't know what to do.

Thank you again! Keep all the 2x4's and everything else coming! I need them!

[1hope]

BG, you know that I don't believe in coincidences like that, I don't think you do either. Do the math, then pray about it.

As far as her giving him a child of his own??? He already has a family with you, and any alley cat can breed. Big deal, so now in addition to being an adulteress she's brought a bastard into the mix? Isn't she a piece of work?

Try not to let the emotion of this make you decide what you intend to do. You are the better woman.