Naej, I agree that it's very hard to have a newbie jump in and start using the DB terms. Poor soul hasn't figured out yet that their spouse is not coming home and if they did it would probably be a disaster!

I remember when I was just starting out in this thing, reading the books like they were a bible, looking for every possible answer and thinking that had to be the reason! It takes a lot of time to understand what really went down.

As for my X and his new person, yes they are still together and now they have a baby. I expect the marriage to last as long as she wants it to. I can never see my X admitting that he made a mistake. She could be the biggest B---- in the world and I'm sure he would stick it out...that and who the heck can afford two xwifes!!

I actually hope he is miserable and stays in the marriage. KARMA is a wonderful thing!

Gigi

"It's not what happens to you, it's what you make of it." Zig Ziglar