{{{Carpenter}}} Ahh..when someone claims "no man love" WHAT does that mean again?
Sounds like your session was good and definitely makes you think..the things you say make it SOUND like your wife is thinking about something..what, of course, we all have no idea..of course..you know your sitch..
It sounds like you are doing everything well..just being loving and patient..and a good dad...praying for your continued strength to do these things with a smile on your face
Tawnya
Me:39 H:40 D18/S12 M20/T21 Bomb 10/11/08 One Two Three Four
Going to church always refreshes or recharges me!!!
Had a cheerleading banquet for D12. W and I sat a the "parents" table...girls from the squad all sat together. For the first hour W and I talked non stop....nothing big...regular stuff...I bought her a drink..not one for myself though. I go to grab a smoke and get back and W has bought us both drinks...I thank her. After a couple hours W starts getting antsy...she says she was going to the movies and wanted to catch the matinée. I just commented that not much we can do..... We leave around 4:30 to head home so we can drop off W and me and girls can go to my dads for turkey day. D9 was there already with my cousin and family. While W and D12 were changing I checked cellphone text outbox...MSG to OM...call you when I am done... D12 goes to ask W where she is going...movies was her reply...D12 did not look convinced! We get into my car and W calls D12 before we pull away from house! More movie story I am sure... Hang at my dads awhile...kids want to split. We get home about 7:30....W strolls in about 8...chars with kids abit...goes to her cave.
D12 told me in the car on the way to my dads that "nobody likes her or mom in my family"....I reassured her that was not true...she was kinda teary eyed...
My first "holiday" without my W....kinda rough...
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Just assure your kids that you DO still love their mother, and that THEY should love her too, but that you just don't agree with her choices right now.
Thank you everyone for the Bday wishes...so far no member of my family has sent me any....but the day is young!!
Tawnya.. You mention firsts...while I was in my bed in the "man suite" I was actually thinking about firsts...so far since bomb day I have been thru... Both daughters Bdays Fathers day 4th of July Memorial day My Bday For some reason my bday hits me the hardest....I can't remember the last one I woke up alone!! I have slept alone for months now...this morning was different....the other significant days since bomb day are important...but today is MY DAY!!!!!
Journal for yesterday W calls me after lunch...she is off early to see Endochronologist(sp?). Tells me about her yearly review...where the girls are since they are off school this week...her appt to get tires on the van. I actually start thinking to myself...I really don't want THIS part of "us" rite now. I actually change the subject...to D talk!! Conv stays pretty light ....she actually said she did not call to talk about that stuff just giving me the "scoop" for the day.
About 3:45 she calls me from the tire place to update me on the girls...D9 sleeping over at friends....D12 cheerleading and the same. We talk about the tires a bit and move on to dinner and the parent teacher conference we had at 6pm. She complains abit about the $ for the tires and I bring up dinner. I ask her if she wants to go out...she accepts.
Dinner W let's me decide...Mexican it is!! Dinner chat is light...after a finish we are sitting there just talking....she brings up people in her life "changing". Her dad is different lately...she even comments about me...she just can't "accept" all these changes she sees in people. This statement got me thinking last night....she can't accept anyone elses "changes".....but everyone better accept hers!!! What a double standard..... Gotta figure out a way to bring this up to her...I am gonna stick it in my brain for our next trip to MC on Saturday.
Thanks again for all the birthday wishes...I will be waiting for the "spankings".....
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
