Tough time of the year to be going through this...is it ever a good time? After reading Dan's past "indiscretions" in your post above, as much as I try to be positive, I just don't see the long term viability of your relationship. I am not surprised that this has been going on for this long because I have been there myself. BUT BBJ, there comes a time where we need to take a good long look at our relationship or marriage and face the inevitable. I think you know as I did what needs to be done...I think like me you hesitate for a few reasons but the biggest one is the kids....they will be ok., you will be ok....heck you will be better than just OK, you will be GRRRRRRRRRREAT!
