Oh, boy, I didn't realize how deep and long of a history of "extra" activities he had. I'm not sure how you've gotten this far, it says something about your amazingness! But, it seems to me that he doesn't realize that he has a problem, and it is clear that he has had a problem, since before you were married. If he isn't working to fix him, there's no way (IMO) that he is ready to try to "fix" your M. I think that he needs some serious boundaries, and conditions. For one, he has to have some IC, I think, to get to to the root of his "addiction". I don't think he's up to it, but you could give him a chance to prove me wrong.
It's funny, as I was reading about the sofa, and no touching, and doing stuff with the kids, I was thinking about my W. Kerry hit it on the head! I have been enabling her, the letter has cracked that a bit. You just need to crack Dan's head!
