Well, it helped to detach after Bomb #3, when I through his lying, egg-sucking a$$ out of our home. After Bomb #2, when he wanted to come home, my boundary was NC w/OW. When I found he'd broken that boundary, I'd had it. At that point I went NC w/him for four months, and that only ended because of my health problems -- which seemed to make him see the light.
One of the ironic things I found about DB is that if you push for honesty, it will ruin the R. Well, I guess I decided for myself, that with no honesty, did I really have an R w/him? My answer was no.
The deceit is killer, sometimes I felt like I was dealing w/a child.
I'll say extra prayers for you -- what are your holiday plans?
I'm taking your wise advice and focusing on my parents and sis being here, and oldest daughter home from college. We haven't all been together in several years.
It concerns me that the C doesn't hold your husband accountable for his actions. What's that about??
