(((((Ali))))) I need to get S20 to clean up the stuff he dumped in the garage when he got home, which will make space for what I need to get out there. The other thing I need to do is to get rid of stuff that piles on the desk. A lifelong problem. I collect things that I might want to read later. You know when later comes!
(((((Donna))))) I was pretty brutal about getting rid of stuff on my last go round, for me. But, I think I can get rid of some more. I'm catching on, but I am an old dog! The new tricks don't come easy!
(((((Amy))))) I just might have to do that. Probably after the weekend, though. It might help to motivate me to post pics every week! I'd hate to be embarrassed!
(((((GF))))) So, once again, your H and my W are quite similar!
Yes, I was really taken aback when she said that my offer was "very kind". Part of me says, "Duh, I am your H." On the other hand, it's not something she'd usually say.
(((((Essie))))) I think that what is "working" (which may be a strong word) is that I have scared her. Her security is threatened. FMO says that it is emotional security that is important to women, with my W I am pretty convinced it is financial security. And actually facing the prospect of losing that scares her. I don't sense anything that makes me thing she is concerned about missing me, but the security I offer is another thing entirely.
I think I have noticed her stepping back from her controllingness just a little bit. Though I could be imagining it, at this point, too. And it hasn't been long enough to call it a pattern.
Thanks for your very kind words, sometimes it is easy to forget, when you've been torn down for years!
(((((Michelle))))) I always have a hug for you!
So, last night she again said she wants to sell the house. I think it is really just a way of running away. She says it is too big, but I really don't see that as the problem, though perhaps the yard is too big, to maintain the way she wants it. I'm not opposed to selling it eventually, but not for a couple years at least. I think the real estate market will recover, at least a little bit.
She also mentioned that she will be in our room over the weekend. I told her that I would like her to move back in permanently. She said that she (1) hates the mattress, and (2) is really bothered by getting up much ealier than I do. As far as the mattress goes, she is right, it needs to be replaced. But, I can't buy a new one until the credit cards are completely paid off, probably 6 months, maybe a bit more than that. If I did, it would be like poking an animal with a stick. There's no way she'd sleep on it. So that will have to wait. As far as the second point, I told her that it really doesn't bother me. She said that it bothers her. So, I said that I could adjust my schedule a bit, so that there wasn't that kind of problem. She said that I shouldn't do that, that she had adjusted her schedule to match mine when we were first married, and regretted it. I tried to explain that it really wouldn't be a bad thing if I did, but she didn't want to hear it. So I said maybe there was a compromise to be reached. She seemed to agree with that, we didn't talk any more about it. So, maybe she is thinking that she could sleep in there when she isn't planning to get up early? Weird. I'm thinking that I might try to adjust my schedule now, while she is not sleeping in there. That would take away the excuse, and it wouldn't be because she was in there. Of course, it will be a challenge, I am a bit of a night owl, and she is a bit of an early bird!
So tonight and probably tomorrow night I clean the room. I sounds like she expects to have the guestroom prepared for the guests Wednesday night (they will arrive Thursday) and sleep on the sofa (where she actually claims to sleep the best) that night, and in our room Thursday-Saturday night.
We are going to have Thanksgiving dinner on Saturday, I'm making a list, she and S20 will shop Friday. She is going to cook the turkey, stuffing, and potatoes, I'll make pies and sweet potatoes, and the beans and corn, I think. I expect it will be quite a feed. I also have to figure out what to feed the gang Thursday while she is at work, and Friday as well.
