I wish I could do what I tell others to do. Much harder when you have to do it yourself!
That's it, do as I say not as I do. I am over 5 years now, and that is because I wasn't strong enough or smart enough then to enforce boundaries. I also wasn't smart enough to know how to pick my battles so I battled it all! Bad idea.
IMO you do not want to end up like me (and maybe a few others here) and in 5 years be saying the same things. Stand up now for what you believe is right. If sharing your H with ow so blatantly is right then leave it alone. If it is wrong (and you know it is and have stated your boundary) then don't beg H to stay when he threatens to leave. You don't have to help him but certainly don't stop him. Do a 180, tell him to be out in 2 hours. If he does pack up, make him take it all. NO piecemeal crap. He doesn't run the show anymore, YOU do.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
Thank you for your advice WC- I know you have been doing this for a very long time, and I so appreciate what you are telling me. I have to do this for me, and I like the telling him to be out now, I hope I can stick to my guns and do it when I need to. Thank you again!
Oh MT! What a morning for me to be tied up. (((((HUGS))))
I came to your thread and started reading backwards. I wanted to post this quick, so you know that I have not left you...and I do have some things to say....
First, I want to tell you that I am so angry at your H right now that I am trying to decide whether to throw up or cut off his you know what, or maybe both.
What a jerk.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
You sound like my RL friends. Tiff wants to call him up and give her a piece of her mind and another work friend was flipping him off from the room next to me when he called me about my Dad's football picks. Funny story, another friend a coworker, I just found out her sister works in the store too, at one of the small restaurants in there. It is a small world.
Yeah, he is an ass, certifiable at this point! I know you are busy at work Hope I appreciate you just popping in!
