Carlos, theres hundreds of reasons and countless permutations of reasons, for her to react to you in the way she does. and no book, no logic, no amount of knowledge will give the correct reason at that precise moment in time.
i dont think your interactions with her will change much when measured in months, much less in weeks. dont expect too much or feel disappointed if there is little or no perceptable change.
my W also responded to me in her usual way, (after a couple weeks of light-hearted phone conversations without any abrassions) she was describing how our daughter gave her some flak. i started to explain how i handle that situation at my home, and she got that tone again. the anger was back. but where i would normally just shut down, i stood up and told her that i was merely explaining for background purposes so she can understand where Zophia may have gotten the idea her actions were acceptable. i think for the first time, she understood a little about my method of communication.
changing the habits created after 10+ years of a relationship will take lots of time. but since we're both raising our daughter, we have no choice.
you're doing great Carlos.
"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".
