TxMom- help I'm still hopeful -#2 post

[Amy M]

TxMom!!! I love what PM wrote...where was she when I was having such a tough time detaching???

But, I think by reading your response that you missed some of what she said...DBing won't work on him right now. DBing will work on you!!!!

Your marriage was not a joke. Your life with him was good. Unfortunately, you can't have that life back. You have to accept that reality, and once you do, you might start to realize that there were things about that life you didn't really like anyway!

That's where I am. I've finally started doing things for me...something I gave up when I had kids. I thought that was what a mom was supposed to do...completely give up herself for the sake of the kids. But, I see now that giving up so much made me unhappy. It happened so gradually, that I didn't even know it until very recently.

I told Tawnya today that my friend told me that she saw it, and that she's very happy to see me getting back some of the things I gave up. She said, "Amy, that's just healthy."

So, if H ever comes back, I'll be in a very good place. I won't give up so much next time. I'll keep track of me!!!

That's why I think having your H take the kids some is so important...you need some time to recall what you like to do and to do those things!!!

You are doing fine...hang in there!!! And, have a wonderful Thanksgiving if I don't hear from you before!

Hugs!
Amy