When you see her parents for Thanksgiving, and out of earshot of the kids, let the in-laws know WHICH bills it is you're not willing to pay. Make sure you convey that you are willing to continue to meet the family's basic needs, but that you're NOT going to continue to financially enable your wife's current lifestyle in any manner.
Might not be a bad idea to CYA legally by sending her an e-mail to that effect, either.
Which bills are you refusing to pay?
Puppy
Hey Puppy - it's her car (which thankfully I put in her name in April), a dentist bill for cosmetic work she had done last year and her credit card bill which just has her gas on it. The three bills add up to more than she makes every month. I also cover everything else.
We had come to an agreement that while we were in the house I would pay those bills (except anything she does personally on the CC)as long as she paid for the groceries and kept up with them. I'm not satisfied with how she has kept up with them. Now add her staying at friends, things change in my mind.
We spoke civilly on the phone before and agreed to go over tonight. She is interviewing for a full time job today. She said that if she gets it she will take on her bills. Let's see what happens.
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"Tough times don't last, tough people do." --My Dad to me years ago, me to my boys now.
