I'm sorry.
I must have missed the part where you said you thought it was cool to let your kids go live with their pot smoking, party-animal mother.

WTF, dday?

What state do you live in?

You need legal advice.
Although I am in the legal field, I am only a Paralegal.
Therefore I can not give you advice.

But I CAN point you in the right direction if you'll tell me where you live.