Pushing him out the door sucks too. B/C then I become the homewrecker, but I need this thing to MOVE.
Ok, that's malakies (greek word you DONT want translated ).
You are scared to make the jump. I understand that, what I cant understand is that you cant see he is not going to change the way he treats you unless you make him.
I dont care if he is confused. He didnt think the impact of the holidays and the kids's feelings when he said he cant do this. A divorce or a separation has consequences.
You are enabling him to mess with you Bbj. You need to get your attitude back. You have a "pseudo" dillema. The only difference WHEN he will move out will make, is how "battered" and used you will feel afterwards.
You dont want this guy sleeping on your couch for no reason, you are not running a hotel. IMO going out as a family doesnt do good to your kids either. My C told me my kids suffered because we had not "warned" them there was a problem. Especially Nathan will be totally confused about how on earth you were a family and went to all these gatherings and suddenly his dad moves out.
Fear is a poor consultant. Make this your game with your rules. I agree. He doesnt deserve any more time, he has cheated you repeatedly (that part about when you had the baby really hit me hard), put your health in danger screwing around, he caused pain to you and your kids, he doesn respect you, he is using the power he has on you to stall until HE is ready... Enough, dont you think? K
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