Thanks Davidswife. I am sorry to hear about your mess, I will post in yours right after.
I am still a little sad that he chooses to lie to me. How did you get thru this. It's been nine months and I thought we can get past all this childish deception. I'd rather he come right out and say 'I am going away with OW, I won't be around, don't make any plans on my account.' But this whole making work as an excuse thing is so demeaning, insulting and just nasty. I don't feel comfortable playing games but DB tells me to keep my cool and not talk R. If I push for honesty, then I know our R will suffer. I feel like I am stuck. Still more waiting it out, I guess. I booked an appt with my C here for next week. Maybe he can give me some good strategies. He's pro-M but I have yet seen him do anything except encourage H's personal development (which is good) but not hold him accountable for his actions (which is bad).
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
