Oh, yeah, can I relate to that. I went thru a period (and may again) where I was really focused on the fact that H made a unilateral decision to destroy our family and make D become a child of divorce with all its wounds. At an age where she's beginning to develop her understanding of relationships with men. And he did it without a moment's consultation with me.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012