Thanks yr. I got signs tonight that my H still wants to work on this...ahhh...it is such crazy making!
Hi di-I am sorry for all that you are going through. One of the DB rules is to stop going down cheeseless tunnels. Your wanting to get answers from your H is a cheeseless tunnel right now. That may eventually change but for now you need to stop pushing. Try as hard are you can to let go for now and eventually you could see big changes in your H. It was hard for me to let go but I did the best I could and I do see lots of changes. I think back to Thanksgiving a year ago. I had no idea what my H was doing that day. This year he says he plans to spend at least part of the day with me and my family. If he shows, it will be another big step.
My H sent me a text early this morning explaining what he did this weekend. Several hours later I called him and with very few words, he knew I wasn't happy about not hearing from him for 3 days. He asked if he could call me later and I told him he didn't need to. He did call me later and told me his trial scheduled to start this week is postponed...he seemed so much less stressed. My H showed up for C...it was a very productive session and seemed to work through a lot of things but only time will tell. My H did say he wants to spend Thanksgiving with me...but he also did say he had invitations to stop by several friend's house...oh well, I am trying to appreciate the momentary postives.
