Hey Julia, what I was thinking is that even moving in with OW it can still be a very fantasy relationship where he gets all of the benefits without the responsibilities. It reminds me of the stereotypical dating relationship where the woman is looking for the man to step up and commit to a marriage relationship, but, her boyfriend is happy with how things are and sees no reason to change and make the commitment to marriage. It's one of the things that I struggle with as I look at my W and her OM. They've been together for a few months and he has plenty of money to lavish on her at this point without having to consider things like clothes for the kids or when her car needs license plates. So, their relationship is one big fun time, one big vacation. How could I possibly compete with that? Hell, I thing that we ALL want a nice vacation relationship like that ;p
