Very interesting.... My question is 'What's working?'. I was going to suggest that you lay on the compliments and thank her and appreciate the tiny baby steps that she is making (even though its probably not enough and it hurts). You know encourage the good behaviour - even mentioning the words marriage counselling is good behaviour that should be recognised. But maybe whats working more is that you are being tougher, and she feels like she cant get away with her bad behaviour?
What do you think is working? (Or doesnt it feel like anything is!)
I wonder if you could plan to do something really nice and special for her this weekend? And could you flirt with her?
Is the house work issue : 'You know the house-work stresses W out, you want to help, but you're not prepared to do all of it just to please her'? How to find that balance of being loving and supporting, but also strong and not allowing her to walk all over you with her controlling nature....
I think the key thing is that: You are a good man. She doesnt have the final say in whether you are a good man or not. And her approval or disapproval of you doing the housework or not doing the housework is not the final say on you! You are a good man and that has to come from within you.
It was interesting to hear you say how you feel like you have some of your power back! Use your power for good Jeff!! (said in the voice of a jedi knight)
