W appears to be more approachable. She invited me to go to SIL's on Sat. w/ D to see the new twins ( she had 2 boys).
W had a few gripes, but once those were out of the way, she began to be more civil, and then explained she was trying to be nice for our D's sake.
Something about that struck me oddly. It occured to me that she was not saying everything, but that there were other feelings she had not spoken. It was just a hunch.
On the way back I put my hand on her leg a few times. She did not seem to mind.
Next day, I brought her the leaf blower as she requested but found her on the couch with a migrane. Normally I would have dropped everything to try and make her comfortable. She has said that she would rather have me around when she was sick moreso than anyone else.
I hesitated, then told her that if there was anything I could do she could call.
Later, after dark, I felt she might be lonely and on a hunch gave her a call.
I had been watching a movie with D, Enchanted, and told her it made me think about her. Specifically that I had not been able to show her how much I cared in ways she could acknowledge it.
She thanked me and sounded very fragile.
Our next few phone encounters gave me the sense that she wanted more, but I kept them short, not having anything specific to say, and not sure if it was the right time to have the heart to heart we really need.
Just playing it by ear....
Last edited by native; 11/25/0804:04 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6, Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7 Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09
