well I'll admit at 2:30 today with the L's call I did take a little punch to the gut. The 9:00am tomorrow court date did make me a little sad. I decided I had a choice to make, I could either curl up in a little ball then and there, withdraw, cry or do any number of sad things...or I could do what I do best..GAL..so I changed clothes and hit the gym. I finished there, called a friend to inform him. I sent Mikeshairsytlist38 a text letting her know and got a nice response back from her. I then came home and initiated a phone call to Kim to try and get her to lower the hours on the ROFR. I explained my position and why I wanted the wording to be for any time more than 24 hours..Kim is dead set on 48 but I feel she could do a last minute agreement in the morning.
Now..for what was said...Kim said more of the same..she attempted to justify her position. I let her know how I felt about those justifications and how I felt what she said was not true. She apologized for all this, for the D, she cried on the phone..I told her I did not want nor accept an apology for something that a MC had said could be saved. I told Kim she quit. She quit on me, she quit on her, she quit on Caleigh. I was and have been calm and collected all night and expect the same in the morning. Kim has also said she will give me notice from now on when someone will be with her when she brings Caleigh but won't put that wording in the papers and justifies that by saying Caleigh might find the papers and read them one day and see that things were not exactly amicable.. I do not believe she will give me any notice.
to that I responded, "it's our job as parents to make sure she never sees the D papers".. Imagine that
There was no reason it could not have been saved. I'm convinced and know in my heart that there was no reason.
I have elected not to inform my mom and dad, or siblings that this will take place tomorrow. I would rather my mother's Thanksgiving not be ruined.
I fixed a nice Rib Eye, sweet potato fries, a big salad..tonight. I'm now enjoying a beer..
I'm calm, I'm in a good place. I've talked with Kathleen and Kathleen hears the calmness in my voice. She even commented on it
this is the end but it's also a start..a new beginning.
now guys..do me a favor..say a prayer for Brian tonight..you pray for him, you pray for his W, you pray for their M, you pray for their kids.
you raise a glass for me..
and we will be good..
I'm into work really early in the morning, then out for a court date..then back to work..gas man commith tomorrow sometime to fill my gas tank at home..then a ballgame with my dad to see little Bros' high school team...
I feel I did all I could, I feel I had no and was given no choice. I feel I left no stone unturned. I feel there will be no last minute talks, theatrics, or drama. I am at peace.
I have read almost everything you have posted through all of this and you have handled it with grace, dignity, and a sense of humor. Love you, my friend. I am sorry it ended this way but am proud of you for being who you are.
"I have fought the good fight. I have completed the race. I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:7
SMW
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Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
For what it is worth, I always considered a divorce to be a legal excercise. I know you did all you could....one never knows what the future holds. Concentrate on you, your daughter and your loved ones as much as possible and the rest should fall into place.
"There was no reason it could not have been saved. I'm convinced and know in my heart that there was no reason. She quit on me, she quit on her, she quit on Caleigh."
I hear you....i think many of us on these boards feel the same way.
"you raise a glass for me."
I am off to the fridge to open up a beer bottle....the first in my apt. If anyone deserves it, you do....plus I think that the pizza I had for supper was a little salty. By the way rib eye is my favourite cut of steak.
Hey Mike, if you need a laugh head over to the train-wreck for the latest episode of "F*cktards Who Were Allowed to Spawn!"
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
Laura,, I know you attempted to call.. I was on the phone with someone else and could not get to it..Maybe later tomorrow night??
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"I have fought the good fight. I have completed the race. I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:7
sometimes I wonder about that ..did I fight the "good fight" Did I try hard enough?? I feel I did..I wonder one day if I will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I did.. I guess I wonder if that will ever be revealed to me..
I know that you will probably be getting lots more calls tonight, so I will wait...but please know that you are in my thoughts. You can call me on my cell anytime over the next few days - I'll keep it on me.
You did try hard enough. Be sure of that. Own it.
And when you reflect on Thursday, look at all that is RIGHT in your world - little Caleigh, your family, your friends, your home, your social life, having a job, etc.
Laura,, I know you attempted to call.. I was on the phone with someone else and could not get to it..Maybe later tomorrow night??
You call when you need me. The phone is always on and there is always one right next to me.
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"I have fought the good fight. I have completed the race. I have kept the faith." 2 Timothy 4:7
sometimes I wonder about that ..did I fight the "good fight" Did I try hard enough?? I feel I did..I wonder one day if I will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I did.. I guess I wonder if that will ever be revealed to me..
Yes, you did. Unfortunately, some walls do not have enough time to come down. Sure, Jehrico only took seven days, but look how many people were marching around it.
Just keep loving the princess and being an awesome daddy. She will see the papers one day and she will know who quit.
SMW
M40/H36 T16/M14 4K B2/08 S4/08 current
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. I Corinthians 13:7
I know that you will probably be getting lots more calls tonight, so I will wait...but please know that you are in my thoughts. You can call me on my cell anytime over the next few days - I'll keep it on me.
I'll yell sometime..
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And when you reflect on Thursday, look at all that is RIGHT in your world - little Caleigh, your family, your friends, your home, your social life, having a job, etc.
