N, The holidays are always tough for those of us who have had spouses walk away. I know that you are having some down times and that's okay. But, this is an opportunity for you to make some new memories and traditions w/your friends and family. I'm very glad to see that you are not spending the holiday alone. Enjoy the time you spend w/your family.
Maybe you might like to take photos and make a memory book for your parents? It would be a good way to stay busy and I bet you would enjoy doing it as well. I'm sure your parents would enjoy it. Be sure to take photos of the window and the siding that you and your father did in late summer. These are memories that you created and should be captured for sharing later on w/others.
N, Happy Thanksgiving!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
That is a great idea!! Your parents would love a memory book like that!
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
It really means so much to me that you all are thinking of me!!!! I got out yesterday afternoon & mulched the leaves, the riding mower would not start so I had to push mow the front & back twice! I was exhausted & it was only about 45 degrees. It was down below freezing last night so when I went to bed, both dogs got in bed with me & I slept until 9am, I never sleep that late!!! I think that is the first good nights sleep I've had since all this mess started over a year ago.
I was pretty down today, but not quite as bad as yesterday. I started thinking about things he said to me & things that I read that he wrote OW, that really depressed me. I had to work on the "stop thinking" in my mind. I finally got it out, it's popped in a couple of times today but I'm really working on not thinking about it.
It just amazes me how close we were & for him to do & treat me like he did, I guess I'm still in shock. If he were in his right mind he would have never treated me that way, I really don't understand how OW can brain wash a man so much. A man I used to work for said whiskey & a woman can really mess with a mans mind & make him do crazy things.
Snodderly, thank you so much for the ideal, that sounds wonderful. I may try to do that!! You all are such a comfort to me, I don't know what I would do without all my friends here on this site!!
N, I was raking and mulching too. It's a great way to rid your mind of negative thoughts and the exercise is wonderful. I didn't have a couple of pets to keep me warm, but I'm glad they were there for you.
I understand completely what you are saying about the way your xh treated you. What your former co-worker said about the booze and women...well...he's right.
I do hope that you have a very happy Thanksgiving w/your family. Do not allow negative thoughts to enter your mind on that special day.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thank you so much for that!!! Well, mowing wasn't exactly what I had to do but I did mulch the leaves & it rained today so they are all over the yard again!! Oh well, that will be more work later to keep my mind off things.
In my mind right now, I'm working on forgiving my xh, also forgiving the OW. I'm trying to work on me & I'm trying not to think so much! It was really hard this past weekend, things kept popping in my head about the first email I saw that he had written to this OW (this is when I discovered he had someone else) he told her she was the woman of his dreams. That just about killed me. But, I've been trying to put that out of my head & think about the good times we did have. The light is still on & I'm just working on getting thru the best I can day by day. It's in God's hands!
My plans for Thanksgiving day are to be with my parents, my dogs, their dog, my aunt & cousin & watch the Titans football game. We all like football!! Of course eat!!
I wish you all a wonderful Thanksgiving!! Thank you for being here for me!!!!!
You have been busy working in your yard. I did that too this weekend and paid the price with allergies and a horrible headache for a few days.
I am glad I did it as we are supposed to get lots of rain in the next few days.
I know you will have a nice Thanksgiving. Imagine how privileged you are to live in this country where we have all of these freedoms while your h is in a country that is so different from our own.
I am glad to see you are trying to forgive them. It is hard, I know! It took me almost two years to get to that point. God will walk you thru it as it is not easy and the path is narrow.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
