"As for this "I guess I still don't understand how someone who was so involved in his childrens lives suddenly changes and can go days without even talking to them..."

Treese: They go into the tunnel and withdraw from reality, the real world and live in their fantasy world for however long it takes.

Right now my h is, we think, in the withdrawal stage and for now we have to let him be which is a good thing as that is what is needed to get thru this stage.

Yes, be thankful for your kids as I know you are.

The Bomb: 08/05
H moves out: 06/2006
H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07
H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08
H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09
Divorced 08-12
Kids: 22, 20, 19