I don't think dropping the rope would be working in my sitch. It seems like what I am doing is improving things, but VERY VERY SLOWLY.... Every time I do something that I think will piss her off, like talk to her parents and sister, she does get really pissy and does not contact me for a couple of days, but then warms up again. And it seems she warms up a little bit further each time we go through one of these cycles... Does that sound familiar to anyone??

Right now, she's little more cold and distant again after we had our financial discussion. Hope it results in a couple more babysteps...