Examples WS: "As much as I love you, I can't see our M being happy" BS: "It must be difficult to go through life being so blind"
WS: "I left you long before the OP came into the picture" BS: "Perhaps I just imagined that was my (husband/wife) in bed with me the last few years"
WS: "My A with OP has nothing to do with us" BS: "You are correct, the A was and is completely your choice"
WS: "I am tired and too stressed to continue this" BS: "Yes, I can see how living a deceitful double life could be very fatiguing and hard on one's concience"
WS: "I just don't have 'those feelings' for you anymore" BS: "I can see why...it's hard to value your spouse when you don't respect yourself first"
WS: "We just aren't right for each other" BS: "Yes, it isn't right for anyone to cheat and abandon their M"
Here is an oldie but a goodie (X2)-- WS: "Me and OP are just friends at work" BS: "Funny, this the only 'friend' either of us has ever kept secret from one another"
WS: "I wasn't looking for a relationship--it just happenned!" BS: "Bad things tend to happen when good people do nothing to stop them"
and so on....
Me-38 H-38 Married 18years Daughter-17 & Son-9 Discovery of EA/PA 4/23/08 Left home 5/08/08 Moved in with OW 08/01/08
The only rock I know that stays steady, the only institution I know that works is the family. -- Lee Iacocca