I've decided not to contact X or do anything for her this week. Last year when I did the above we were still legally married, now we're not. It may also be of benefit to her to experience a holiday isolated from me and the kids. The first holidays following our separtation she had the kids. If she calls I'll answer but I won't initiate contact.

This should be interesting.

"The answers are within you" (can't remember who). Unfortunately, so is the bullshit.