Thank you for posting your great letter about setting boundaries. That is something that will be very useful to others. I should have done that with my husband after I found out about his EA. My IC is a DBer but she did not suggest I do anything about setting boundaries. My husband is not sure if he even wants to stay married, perhaps my IC feels that gives me less power to set boundaries. And like you, I was afraid of pushing him away again. But now I see that you do need to set boundaries or else you are just letting him eat cake. So giving him that that letter is essential for you to take some control of this situation.
